Happy Mothers Day ! This is the first mom's day without mom. I was ok till today. Yesterday I was busy with my son . He took me to a Razorback Baseball Game for Mom's Day. One of my Favorite things to do is go to a game with him. This picture is of all of us. Looks like I was a hand full even back than. Yes I am the baby of the family. Can't you tell? Spoiled rotten.
At my new job I get to take my clients or friends really where ever they need to go and one of my ladies likes to visit a friend in an assisted living facility. This Friday the facility had a new lady and all the time we were there she was getting up from the dining room table and trying to leave . She said she was looking for her family. Than she needed to find a restroom. In 15 mins. she went to the restroom 2 times and tried to go outside to find her family 3 times. The staff was on there toes. They were trying to get supper served and comfort her. I almost cried. That is the way mom was in her early stages of Alzheimer's. I can't tell you how many times she went to the restroom. Every 5 mins some days.And mom wondered off a few times before we decided she needed full time care. The sad thing is for this lady was her family was not coming back most likely. But the staff had to tell her over and over they would be there later . Of course maybe the family would come see her that evening. I am sure they will be there today to see her. She will be looking for them all day I bet. This disease robs the heart and soul from families. She was walking all over the place . She could live a long fruitful life if she did not have this awful disease. Her family has lost the mom they had and now she is someone who needs constant care because she will wonder off and get lost or hurt. Please Pray that we find a cure for Alzheimer's soon. I Miss my Mom today. My real mom not the one that Alzheimer's made her the last years of her life. Rest In Peace Earlene Ruth Hudson.
I miss my mom also, even though she died many years ago. You were an awesome daugter, Karen, and I bet you are a fun mom to your son. Great you can use your skills in this facility.
ReplyDeleteHugs and Happy Mother's Day,
Carol
Your words have caused tears. Beautifully written.
ReplyDelete"This disease robs the heart and soul from families."
So very true.
When I visit my mother in the dementia wing of the aged care home, I very seldom see other families visiting.
The visitor's book is signed by the few faithful ones. There are those who don't sign, like my sister. She thinks she's being a rebel! Or is it that I don't know if she visits or not!
Every one of the residents I speak to have family as the main thing on their mind. So sad.
There is a new resident there who is a wanderer. In and out of every door. I have told my friends to tell me if I get this rotten brain damage so I can make a permanent change. I hope you are really doing well except for Mother's Day, of course.
Take care. xo Lydia
Hugs to you today Karen.
ReplyDeleteVery well put. I thought of you on Sunday...your first without your mom. I know it wasn't easy. When I visit Mother, I often "help" some of the residents with their decisions on the elevator. Sometimes, they want to go to the dining room, but that's where they got on the elevator. Watching Mother's decline, I wonder how long she will be able to process her thoughts. Even though she doesn't have Alzheimer's, she is showing some signs of dementia. Some days are better than others. My sister & I visit, alternating days. It's easier on us and Mother doesn't expects us both in one day.
ReplyDeleteI think of you often Karen and on Mother's Day I was especially thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteYour were an exceptional daughter and caretaker to your mother!!!
Hugs,
OH MY DEAR I am late,, I am sorry but very glad you are posting. it sucks big time,,, I remember the best job I had was with the 80 alheimers residents I jsut loved it Karen,,, MAYBE find yourself in a place or home like that a small one like I work in now,, you would do so much for them and their families, keep posting please,,,,
ReplyDeleteHi Karen, I was thinking of you today and wanted to send a wee (((hug))) from Scotland.
ReplyDeleteMaz x
Thanks everyone. Love the thoughts , prayers, and Hugs.
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