As long as I can remember mom always had a curly perm. Than when in the early stages of Alz's. she started refusing to even get it cut. It got very long. When I took over washing it for her I ask her if I could trim it to make it easier to wash . She said yes. Big mistake because she forgot that she told me I could .Now she does not care. And I have been keeping it trimmed for years. But it is time for a trim and the aid washes her hair now. So should I cut it so it will be easy for the aid or let it grow because that is the way mom wanted it in her later years? I will most likely trim it for the aid. But I still fell bad about the first time I did it. Mom kind of acted more lost after I cut her hair the first time. Like I took a memory that she could not get back. My advice for everyone is if your love one will notice a change you want to make don't do it. Wait till they won't notice .
If you notice my hair is a lot longer way back when and Moms was a lot shorter. Times sure change. :) I think this is from the 70's.
If it was me I would cut your moms hair to make it easier because if your mom knew it would make things easier I think she would like that.
ReplyDeleteHello there! I must share with you that the smartest, most creative thing I did for my mother was to have her beautiful hair cut into a pixie do! She never stopped receiving compliments on how wonderfully young and perky she looked. Good luck whatever you decide.
ReplyDeleteI concur. Cutting the hair makes sense.
ReplyDeleteIt would be so much easier if you cut your Mom's hair. After my Grandmother had her stroke, Mom started just cutting a little off each time it was washed. Doing it gradually, my Grandmother hardly noticed that it had been cut. Need any help, my brother is a barber and my sister is a hairdresser, and I have had enough experience watching them that I can do the job.
ReplyDeleteI remember your long hair, as you probably do mine. We looked like that all through Jr. High and part of High School.
Hi Karen,
ReplyDeleteI agree with Karen's response; short hair will be so much easier....., and maybe shorter hair will feel good to your mother.
I love the pictures!
A trim it is. Thanks everyone. I do remember your long hair Charlotte. Come on by anytime. I won't make you cut moms hair but come on over anyway.
ReplyDeleteIf it is easier for you you should cut it. Your Momma would understand. God bless you Karen.
ReplyDeleteI think short hair is the way to go. :)
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and cut it; it's for your Mom's benefit. that's my advice, anyway.
ReplyDeleteIt is easier to keep it clean, it won't get "pulled" by mistake when someone is helping her dress, even putting a coat on is easier. I speak from experience; my Mom refused to get her hair cut, and eventually it was LONG and filthy as she also was refusing to let it be washed.
Honestly, Karen, she looked like a crazy homeless woman by that point, which broke my heart, and I was so sorry I had not just cut it when I had the chance. It is cut now, and kept clean, as she's in a facility.
That's good advice, to do it gradually, if you think the multiple cuttings will be less upsetting than losing several inches at once.
Good luck!
Cass
My husband's daughter from his first marriage cuts his hair. He can "remember" how to go to her house with his new GNS now and get back home. This is special father/daughter time. Men have so many fewer decisions about hair!
ReplyDeleteThanks . Mom stopped taking bath's and showers all together for awhile. She got pretty nasty. But now she is clean most of the time. :) I will give her a trim this week.
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