Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Giving In
I have decided that it is time to stop making mom eat and drink and eat and drink. I think I am making her sick. If I work at it I can get a bowl of oatmeal or soup down her and a milkshake or smoothie. But it is making her sick. When hospice first came they told me not to force her to eat or drink. If she refuses it is just the illness. I thought that is awful. She will starve and get dehydrated. What are they thinking. But after this weekend I realize when I force her to eat and drink so much it makes her sick. I will try smaller portions and maybe if I can get her to wake up she will eat little bites during the day. But She sleeps most of the day. It is hard to wake her up. It is not the med. I only give her enough that she is not in pain. We had the medicine figured out were she was awake more and not a zombie. But now she sleeps without much medicine. But if I do get her to wake up she really isn't a zombie. She still tells my she hates me and shut up or NO!. That is good that is my mommy.
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The Early, Mild to Moderate and Advanced stages of Alzheimer's in the brain.
Seven Stages of Alzheimer's
1. No sign of congnitive impairment.
2. Very mild congnitive decline.
3. Mild congnitive decline.
4. Moderate congnitive decline.
5. Moderately severe congnitive decline.
6. Severe congnitive decline.
7. Very severe congnitive decline.
(Congnitive pertains to the mental process of perception, memory, judgement, and reasoning, as contrasted with emotional and volitional processes.)
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I think you are wise not to force her to eat or drink if she doesn't want to.
ReplyDeleteMy dad didn't have Alzheimer's but I remember when I took care of him how hard it was to get him to eat. After a while I just offered him food and if he didn't want it I didn't force him.
I really didn't force her I would just keep asking her to open her mouth,take a bite or take a drink over and over. Till she ate or drank it all. It took forever but she would do it. She didn't want it but you could wait awhile than ask her again and she would open her mouth . Sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI really am forceing her to eat and drink. It sucks.
ReplyDeleteHer eating when you wake her up is your contact with her, even though you were told to not feed her. And with this contact she resists eating. Wow!
ReplyDeleteWill pray for a gentle home-going for your Mom in His time and strength for you to persevere trying to give her food and drink.
I wish I had some bit of wisdom to share or something to make it all better for you. We went through this with my grandfather but I can't picture it with my mom. You are a saint.
ReplyDeleteYou are very wise and loving to realize it's time to let your mother take food and drink as she wants to ...... it's also very hard to watch. I know.
ReplyDeletePlease, enjoy this Thanksgiving.
Oh Karen, this must be so hard for you to see her eating less and sleeping more; part of this dreadful disease.
ReplyDeleteI say it again, you are such a good daughter with so much love and patience.
Blessed thanksgiving to you....
Dolores
Thank you all. You make me feel much better about everything.
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